Feeling Drained? How to Set God-Honoring Boundaries Without Guilt
Are You Saying “Yes” Too Often?
Have you ever felt like you're constantly saying "yes" to everyone but "no" to yourself?
You’re not alone. Many Christian women struggle to set boundaries, fearing they’ll disappoint others or seem unkind. But what if I told you that setting boundaries isn’t just wise—it’s biblical?
For years, I believed that being a "good Christian" meant always being available.
✔️ Yes to helping.
✔️ Yes to extra responsibilities.
✔️ Yes to meeting everyone else’s needs—even when I was exhausted.
But here’s the hard truth:
👉 If you don’t set boundaries, someone else will.
👉 And they will always take more than they give.
God Calls Us to Protect Our Boundaries
"Do not move your neighbor’s boundary stone set up by your predecessors in the inheritance you receive in the land the Lord your God is giving you to possess." – Deuteronomy 19:14
We have an inheritance given to us by God—a mission, a purpose, a calling. Boundaries act as fences to protect what He has entrusted to us.
If we don’t keep our boundaries, we risk:
❌ Being pulled away from our purpose
❌ Taking on responsibilities that aren’t ours
❌ Becoming too drained to hear God’s voice
Even Jesus had boundaries—He stepped away to rest and pray (Luke 5:16). So why do we struggle to do the same?
The 3 Steps to Creating Boundaries That Honor God
1️⃣ Recognize That Rest Is Obedience
Rest isn’t selfish—it’s faith in action. God commands rest because He knows we need it.
"He who said to them, ‘Here is rest, give rest to the weary,’ and, ‘Here is repose,’ but they would not listen.” – Isaiah 28:12
Every time you say “yes” to everything, you may actually be saying “no” to God’s plan for your life.
2️⃣ Communicate Your Boundaries with Grace
Boundaries aren’t about saying “no” to everything—they’re about saying “yes” to the right things.
"Let your ‘yes’ be yes and your ‘no’ be no, so that you may not fall under condemnation." – James 5:12
Practical ways to communicate boundaries with grace:
Be honest – "I’d love to help, but I can’t commit to this right now."
Offer alternatives – "I can’t lead the Bible study, but I’d be happy to pray for the group."
Trust that God will provide – Your “no” creates space for someone else to step into their calling.
3️⃣ Trust That God Will Fill in the Gaps
Saying “no” doesn’t mean the world will fall apart—it means trusting that God holds all things together, not you.
"Each one must do just as he has purposed in his heart, not grudgingly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver." – 2 Corinthians 9:7
💡 Truth Bomb: You are NOT the Savior. God is.
Your role is to be faithful, not to do everything.
Final Encouragement: Boundaries Are an Act of Faith
Your worth isn’t found in what you do for others—it’s found in who you are in Christ.
Fear tells us, If I don’t do it, who will?
But faith tells us that God's plan will prevail.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed and unsure how to set these boundaries, you don’t have to figure it out alone.
This is exactly what I help my coaching clients navigate. Let’s walk this journey together.
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